I need to write this out…
This really has nothing to do with weight loss. But why do well meaning friends think they have the right to disparage your chosen mate? As you all know, our ac has not been working, now they think it is the pipes(something Ted said all along, but they wouldn’t listen), so tey are working on that tomorrow, please pray this fixes it before it gets any hotter, and they also said we could move to another apartment, which I do not want to do.
Anyways, my “friend” texted me that I could come stay with her, and let the A**hole stay here in the heat and suffer. Well, I was livid, she does not even know Ted, and sure, we have had our problems, but we are BOTH working on it. So after work, I texted her back, and told her thank you but no, that would not be right, and she totally starts cutting him down, and telling me he is not up to her standards, and he should not be up to mine. Where does she get off? Then she says “I only care about you” Well I say Bullshit!!!!! If she was my true friend, she would respect my decision to be with him. He is a better man than people give him credit for. I am shaking as I write this. I was so angry all day!! This was hurtful I feel. She always kinda acts like she is a bit better than me, and she was one of my old drug buddies!! We have been thru the same crap!
She has cleaned up too, and gotten rid of a jerky boyfriend, but don’t put Ted in the same category! He and I renewed our commitment to each other this week, and are really trying. I love him and he loves me.
We made out a schedule for our computer use, that we are both happy with, and I will be darned if things aren’t coming at me to try and get me to go back on my word, I will not!!
Has nothing to do with him and me not communicating, we have done real well with that now.
Anyways, sorry, had to get my mad out. I love Ted with all my heart, and since he is willing to try, then so am I. And I’m sorry if some of my friends do not understand that. He has been here for me in some real rough times, and gone over and above what most guys would do. Do we have our problems? Yes, we do, but we are actively working on them, and I want my friends to respect that.
So. Our ac is still not working, I am gonna open the windows when the sun goes down, supposed to be 69 degrees tonite, cool for us.
How are you all? I am doing ok on my diet, been learning more about nutrition on SP, work has not blocked that. Did my level 3 shred today, have to keep it to the 20 minutes due to the heat, but is still a great workout.
Well sorry for the vent, I needed to talk about it, love you guys!
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When it starts to get “too hot” here in Montreal, I will think of you down in Phoenix and stop complaining! I hope your AC is fixed really soon!
Oh, I am so sorry. I hope they are able to get your AC fix. Plus, it is good you and Ted are doing great, your friends should stick to her busy and let you stick to yours.
Man you still worked out in the heat? Props to you!!
I believe that only you can say stuff about your family—no one else is allowed
hope they can fix your AC real fast.
As for your friend. I had a mother like that. She kept telling my to leave my husband because he is sick and I will never hang on to him cause he is good looking bla bla bla.. Well i dropped my mother after 13 yrs of this.
So if your friend continues this I would tell her you want to be my friend you support my choices or friendship is done with..
It sounds harsh but maybe she means to be a good friend and does not know it makes you angry.
Oh honey, so sorry for what your friend did. She is entitled to her opinion but guess what, she doesnt have to sleep or live with him so she needs to back off. You have the right to love who you want to–and if he shows you love, and he’s working on your relationshop, and has supported you–he’s got your back girl and that’s all that matters. So, sending hugs to you and Ted.
Oh that darn old AC is still not fixed!! Oh, I hope that its done soon-very very soon!
Ahhh man! I hate it when people do that. You are so right. She should totally respect your decision. No on knows but the two of you what your relationship is REALLY like.
I cant believe someone would say all that to you. I think some people really dont think before they speak. My friend told me she taught her children growing up, “You can THINK whatever you want and that is ok, you own it. Once u put a voice to your thoughts, everyone owns them.” Some thoughts are better left unsaid. I am so sorry ur friend has been so careless and hurtful to you. Ur right, she showed you, and Ted, a COMPLETE lack of respect. I truly hope you get that AC fixed soon buddy
Hope you get the AC fixed soon!
Sorry to hear your friend was so disrespectful to you!
Love ya,
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Venting and ranting is good for the sanity. Best to ignore your friend. You know Ted and that’s all that counts. You’re the one living with him and not her. Everything she says should be like water off a ducks back to you.
God, I really hope that AC gets fixed soon for you. I dont know how you’re coping without it. I’d melt.
You write and we understand. It is all about you and what you want really, and your good friends will support this. I just want you to be happy. And the truth is, not matter what you say, only you both get the connection. We too here have had our moments, but sometimes it is what it is and working and living with them makes it seem even more rewarding. Grief, who would want everything to be bliss all the time? That would be weird.
To answer your question, you are just you. I was doing a routine yesterday and I recalled the motivation from the fitness team. I recalled the workouts you out together and included some of them (good ol’ memory) and so that is why I thought of you. *hugs*
sorry to hear that you are still having problems with the air…as far as your friend…ignore her…when goes on and on about something not caring how you feel its time to ignore that person…i wish you luck!
I HAVE NOT HAD MY A/C ON YET BUT SURE HOPE YOURS GETS FIXED SOON. I THINK WE ALL HAVE FRIENDS WHO DO NOT THINK BEFORE THEY START TALKING.
Kama you don’t need ‘friends’ like that.
Time to ignore her. You have so many more worthwhile things to concentrate on.
I sure hope your A/C is fixed today.
I don’t know how you are managing to cope with that and still getting your workouts in.
GOOD FOR YOU!
((((Kama)))))
Hey Kama, sorry I’m not around the blogs as often as I’d like to be…I feel for you…about your friend. I’d like to say, she has no right to judge your boyfriend. But, from past experience, I learned that sometimes others see what we don’t. The most important thing is that YOU are happy…that you know you are loved, and yes, although things may not be perfect the willingness to want to make things right is what counts! Did I ever tell you…you are one awesome lady! You have overcome struggles, that many on here have no clue…but, I do. Keep up the great work, Kama…your one of the sweetest, unselfish people I have ever met. You deserve the best, just remember that!