I need to ask a couple of questions
For all of you who have gone thru the grief process, is it normal to feel so tired and wrun g out?
I feel like my nerves are gonna come unraveled any second. I am so tired ost of the time. I even overslept today, so got to work late.
Ted thinks I should take today off from my workouts and just come home tonite and go to bed early, and I am gonndo that. So no workouts today, I have been almost manically pushing myself in them to release the stress and keep myself too tired to feel anything, I think. So today is a break.
Time to think and let myself fall apart a little if I need it.
Is this healthy? I just don’t know.
Sorry if this is a downer, but I feel I can talk to you all about anything.
Well, I need to get some work done, but I had to write this while it was heavy on my heart.
Love you all so much.
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Well, thats the thing about grief…Its different for everyone…But it IS a process…And you must allow it to occur…Listen to your body…
When my dad died it took me months to feel “normal” whatever normal is.
Regardless, life as you knew it has ended, and now you must adapt to the new set up of your family. Its hard. Takes time.
I dont care how old you are, it is never easy to lose a parent, but with time, you will feel better. I lost my dad five years ago, and there are still moments I forget that he is gone and I reach for the phone.
Take a break girl. Let your body heal as well as your heart…
I lost my grandmother in August, and it took me a long time to not feel completely drained. Your emotions play a big part of how your body acts. I am so sorry for your loss! I truly know that pain now more than ever, and I wish I could do something to help you through it. My family wasn’t really supportive for me, and can’t understand why I still feel so down about it, but I do, and I am kind of glad I do because that’s just how much I love her. It does get easier with time, but you will never be “over it”. Just take life one day at a time, and cherish every memory you have been blessed with. Hugs
It is absolutly normal to be exhausted from your emotions and all the greif you are going through. I think a break for you is well needed. Nothing you go through with grief I don’t think would be considered abnormal..it is such personal thing we all feel so many different while grieving. Hang in there Kama.
I think what you are going through is very normal-and I think Ted is right; you should just go home and crash tonight! Your body carries all your stress and emotion and sometimes you have to let it take a break…and also let yourself have a good cry if you need to! A hot bubble bath and some extra sleep might do wonders for you! Your workout will be there when you’re ready to get back into it. Praying for you today.
Yes, it’s normal to feel wrung out and exhausted. A death is a huge mental blow and it will take a lot out of you. You may feel completely fine and then in a minute just start crying. Just let yourself deal with it however it is happening. Sometimes you just need to be alone and sit and cry, sometimes a walk helps, sometimes it doesn’t. Just take it as it comes. I have a lot of very important people in my life and you never get over it but you deal with it differently. Just be good to yourself. I found reading a lot of grief books helped me too.
yes, normal! rest sweetheart. listen to your body. hugs!
It is absolutely normal. When my father passed away, all I wanted to do for about 3 months was eat and sleep. It took me at least a year to feel back on track. The one thing I found to be most helpful was just talking. Wheter it was talking about memories of my dad or just talking about how I was feeling, not keeping it bottled up helped. I did that for the first month and about lost my mind! Blogging would have been a wonderful tool had I had it when he passed. Please know that we are here for you.
XOXOXO
Melissa
We love you too.
Hey Kama, everything you’re experiencing - the emotions, are all very normal. It’s part of the grieving process. What about taking a vacation or even a mini vacation? You need some you and honey time to do nothing but enjoy each other.
When I lost my dad I through myself into work and school. It was hard. It took years to accept that he was no longer here and he’s not coming back.
You will have many good days and bad. You’re doing the right thing by journaling it here so we can share with you our stories and hopefully help you through this painful period.
BIG HUG!!!!!
It is very normal. I remember when my dad died eight years ago, I slept so much in those first few weeks. It was a real exhaustion that went so deep it seemed like I would never get enough sleep to feel better. I learned that the most important thing to do in the grieving department, is to allow yourself to grieve, in the way that comes naturally to you. If you’re exhausted, get rest.
Love you!
The feelings are very very normal. I hope you feel better soon.
Ditto to all of the above! Love you girlfriend!
Yes….it is normal….in the grieving process most everything is normal because like Dawnie said, we all grieve differently—the closest person to me I have lost is my grandfather who passed away 7 years ago—-I miss him everyday and every so often I cry when I think of him—there’s a song I can never listen to without crying my eyes out—I don’t know if it’s normal to feel that way after 7 years—but it doesn’t matter to me, because I love him today as much as I did the day he passed. Hang in there and yes, do get some rest!
I agree with the majority - it’s normal. Take care of yourself.
When you have a loss of a parent no matter how close you are it is a huge loss. That is a person who helped create you. When I lost my mom in 1999 I faked being okay and wore the “shes with the Lord” happy face. I wish I just allowed myself to grieve her loss. Allow yourself to go through this, rest when you can, accept meals or whatever help you can and live in the moment. This is not an excuse to binge or not care for yourself by not working out but if you are fatigued forcing yourself to go to the gym will only lower your immune system. On the other side allow your life to go on. Baby steps if you are tired rest, if you are sad call a friend we are all here for you
I think it’s normal as long as it’s not for months and you still have your fighting spirit. I think you start to worry when people stop talking to others and want to be alone all the time. Hang in there!
It is normal. I lost my dad ten years ago. I was very close to my day and I was like that for quite awhile. Like has been said everyone is different. Hardly a day goes by when there isn’t something I think of that I want to share with my dad. Take a rest and take care of YOU!
Big HUGS!
I think it is completely normal to feel what you are feeling. Though I have never lost anyone, I have seen numerous people of all ages who have lost a close love one and though there is no one way that is normal, most people go through a variety of phases and it is important for you to know that where ever you are at, that is where you are to be. It is good to talk to someone and do what you feel like doing… sleeping, take a little time off or know that is ok to enjoy time with people or yourself. Venting is good too sometimes. Take care my friend and btw, thanks for the cute cat pics. I looked at them again this am and actually laughed out loud. HUGS….