Wanted to share something I read today:
T H E D A I L Y B I T E S July 1, 2009
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===== Cleaning up Stinking Thinking
In my mad rush getting ready this morning I realized I was chanting,
“It shouldn’t be taking this long. I should be able to get things
done quicker,” and other things relating to my current work, getting
this month’s newsletter completed, and other things. As soon as I
realized what I was doing with my “stinking thinking” I changed my
thoughts to, “How could I streamline this process?” and “What could
I do to make this easier on myself?”
Asking better questions gets you better answers. Your brain loves a
puzzle. When you feed your mind nothing more than whiny, why me
questions, you’ll get back nothing more than justifications. You’ll
tell yourself this is true because that happened, and that always
happens because this is true. It’s a vicious circle that helps us
get nowhere fast.
Far better to simply catch yourself when you say something negative
and rephrase it: “Why can’t I eat like everybody else?” becomes
“What can I eat that will make me feel great?”
Remember there are literally millions of people trying to lose some
weight. You are not the only one struggling with this issue, so stop
thinking in terms of other people somehow having it easier or better.
It’s simply not true. Sometimes it will be easy to change your
questions and other times you may have to really stretch your
imagination to come up with something. It’s so easy to be negative
with ourselves, and far more difficult to think up good questions,
isn’t it? Work at it, and it becomes easier.
My point? We all use negative self-talk regularly, me included. As
much as I pay attention to this, and generally don’t use it in
regard to myself or my appearance, I still catch myself doing it,
and when I do I think of another thing to say instead. That ends the
mind chatter, and gives your brain a question to ponder that could
produce a good response. “What can I do today to make myself feel
really good,” is going to give you much better ideas throughout the
day than, “Why do I always have to do this?”
Make an effort to catch yourself in any negative self talk and then
do some EFT on the original question. For example: “Why can’t I
eat like a normal person?” becomes “What can I eat that will make me
feel great?”
“Even though I can’t eat like a normal person, I deeply and
completely accept myself.”
“Even though no one else has it this bad, I deeply and completely
accept myself.”
Why EFT Focuses on Negative
Remember we state the negative in the EFT phrasing because you want
those electrical pathways (neuro pathways) in your brain firing in
the exact manner they do when you think these thoughts. By saying,
“Even though I” and stating exactly what you believe or think is
the trouble causes your brain to fire that specific neural pathway,
i.e. your pattern.
The EFT then knocks this pattern for a loop, after which that
specific pattern cannot replay in exactly the same way ever again.
That is why you’ll feel less intensity on an issue right away — the
path has been forever altered. Do this repeatedly on a stubborn
problem or issue and many times it will eventually knock that
train right off its tracks, never to run again.
You’ll still be able to think of the problem, you won’t suddenly
develop a memory blank. That “issue” or memory of an issue will
still exist but that emotional intensity that used to be attached
is gone. That is what you want the EFT to accomplish — a lessening
of emotional attachment or intensity.
EFT for Why is This Taking So Long?
“Even though I think it shouldn’t take so long, I deeply and
completely accept myself.”
“Even though I know other people can get things done faster, I
deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I don’t always finish what I start, I deeply and
completely accept myself.”
Have fun today, enjoy the moments.
‘Til next time,
Kathryn Martyn, M.NLP
This hit me like a brick. I spend way too much time in negative talk. Alot of us do. I thought this would be helpful.
As for me, AC should finally be fixed, the chiller has to cool all the water off first. Let’s hope, no workouts all week except for the one in the pool last nite. Thanks, Bette Jo for the workout list!
Want to try to do Jillian in the morning, we will see. Need to get back on track, Dinner tonite was steak and baked potatoes, Ted offered to cook, and I was so hot and tired I let him. Not the best diet dinner, but really good.
I did something stupid tonite, was on the phone and trying to empty the dishwasher at the same time. Well a glass slipped, hitting me hard in the nose, and then hit the floor and shattered, I was afraid to move, because I was barefoot. But I managed to get out of there, and clean up, but now I have a headache and a sore nose. Can we say klutz, lol?
Any ways, hanging in there. Thanks MJ, for asking about the ac and your bf’s advice, I just saw that today. I still ask.
Well love you guys, need to check my mail!
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